Relationship Therapy

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Therapy For all the ways you love

Relationships can be wonderful, complicated, messy, deeply healing, and occasionally make us wonder how two people who care about each other can remember the same conversation so differently.

Relationship therapy offers a space to slow things down, understand the patterns underneath conflict, and find new ways of reaching for one another. I work with couples, partners, and polycules across a range of relationship structures, with particular experience supporting LGBTQ+, kink, polyamorous, and ethically non-monogamous relationships.

You do not need to fit a traditional model of partnership to have your relationships taken seriously here. The goal is not to decide what your relationship should look like. It is to help the people within it build greater safety, connection, clarity, and trust.

A Different Way of Understanding Relationship Challenges

When the same argument keeps happening, the problem is often bigger than the thing you are arguing about. Underneath disagreements about communication, sex, jealousy, chores, time, other partners, or whose turn it was to send that text, there are often deeper questions: Do I matter to you? Can I count on you? Is it safe to be vulnerable here?

My relationship work is informed by Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT), an attachment-based approach that helps partners understand the patterns they get caught in together rather than deciding which person is the problem. We work to slow those cycles down, understand what is happening underneath them, and create new ways of connecting that feel safer and more responsive.

The same principles can be adapted thoughtfully for relationships involving more than two people. In polycule therapy, that means making room for the needs, attachments, boundaries, and relationships within the larger system rather than trying to squeeze a multi-partner relationship into a couples therapy model.

Polyamory and Polycule Therapy

Polyamorous relationships can hold enormous amounts of connection, creativity, and care. They can also involve a lot of moving parts. More relationships can mean more attachment needs, more communication, more boundaries, and occasionally a calendar that deserves its own therapist.

Therapy should not begin with the assumption that non-monogamy is the problem. Instead, we can look together at what is actually happening within your relationships.

That might include navigating jealousy or insecurity, strengthening communication between partners, working through ruptures in trust, negotiating agreements and boundaries, adjusting to changes in a polycule, supporting a hinge relationship, or making space for different attachment needs within the same relational system.

Polycule therapy also allows us to look beyond individual pairings and understand how patterns move through the larger relationship network. The goal is not to prescribe the “right” way to practice polyamory. It is to help you build relationships that are consensual, sustainable, connected, and genuinely workable for the people in them.

I work with adults across a range of relationship structures, including monogamous couples, LGBTQ+ partners, polyamorous relationships, ethically non-monogamous relationships, and polycules. Therapy is shaped around the relationships and people actually involved rather than assuming every relationship should function like a traditional one.
Absolutely. Having particular expertise in polyamory, kink, and nontraditional relationships doesn't mean those ideas only apply outside monogamy. Attachment, communication, boundaries, consent, trust, and repair matter in every kind of relationship.
Yes. Polyamory and ENM are particular areas of focus in my relationship work. Therapy may involve two partners, several members of a polycule, or another configuration depending on what is happening and which relationships are involved. Polyamory itself is never presumed to be the problem.
Not necessarily. A polycule is a relationship system, but that doesn't automatically mean every person in it needs to attend therapy. We'll talk about what is bringing you in, which relationships are involved, and who it makes sense to include.
EFCT is an attachment-based approach to relationship therapy. Instead of concentrating only on communication techniques or deciding who is right, we look at the emotional and attachment needs underneath conflict and the cycles partners get caught in together. The goal is to help you understand those patterns and create safer, more responsive ways of connecting.
No. Therapy can be useful when a relationship is hurting, but it can also help when you're navigating change, opening a relationship, renegotiating agreements, deepening commitment, adjusting to a new partner, or simply noticing a pattern you'd rather address before it becomes a crisis.
My role isn't to referee the relationship or decide its future for you. We'll work to understand what's happening underneath conflict and make room for each person's experience. Sometimes greater clarity strengthens a relationship, and sometimes it helps people make difficult decisions about what they want next. Those decisions remain yours.
There may be times when individual meetings are clinically useful as part of relationship treatment. If so, we'll be clear about their purpose, how information is handled, and what confidentiality means within relationship therapy before doing so.