Ethical Non-Monogamy & Polyamory
Navigating even the most traditional relationship style can be a challenge. When your journey looks different, it can be even more complex. At Every Love Therapy, you will receive affirming treatment with nonjudgmental guidance in navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM), and a full range of diverse relationship dynamics.
If you practice ethical non-monogamy or polyamory, you may have previously hesitated to seek therapy out of concern that your relationship structure will be treated as the problem or that therapy will quietly steer you toward monogamy. Know that this is not the case here. Here, every love matters.
What Affirming ENM Therapy means here…
Ethical non-monogamy includes many forms of consensual, transparent relationship structures. These relationships can be deeply fulfilling, but they can also bring complexity, especially during periods of change. Affirming therapy does not assume a “default” relationship model. It respects consent, autonomy, and relational diversity.
Affirming ENM therapy:
Does not assume monogamy as the goal
Understands non-monogamy as a valid relationship structure
Centers on consent, communication, and agency
Avoids moralizing or prescriptive outcomes
If you’re practicing ENM or polyamory, you may be seeking therapy for:
Communication challenges
Boundary negotiation
Jealousy, insecurity, and anxious attachment
Relationship transitions
Identity exploration
Nervous system regulation
I work with individuals and partners navigating ENM and offer relationship-focused support without default scripts or assumptions about how relationships should look.
Relationship and Polycule Therapy
Sometimes the relationship itself needs a little more room in the conversation. In addition to individual therapy, I offer relationship therapy for partners and polycules who want to strengthen connection, work through recurring patterns, navigate change, or better understand one another's needs.
My approach draws from Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT) while adapting the model to respect the realities of polyamorous and ethically non-monogamous relationships. Your relationship structure is not treated as something to explain, defend, or fix.
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No. You may be curious, considering opening a relationship, returning to monogamy, questioning what relationship structure fits you, or simply trying to understand your feelings about non-monogamy. Therapy doesn't require you to arrive committed to a particular model.
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Absolutely. Individual therapy can be a useful place to explore jealousy, attachment, boundaries, identity, relationship decisions, being a hinge, a changing polycule, or your own needs within relationships. If the goal becomes working directly on a shared relational pattern, we can discuss whether relationship therapy would be more appropriate.
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Yes. I offer relationship therapy for partners and polycules in addition to individual ENM-affirming therapy. The work can involve two people or multiple members of a relational system depending on what is bringing you in.
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No. Jealousy is information, not a referendum on your relationship structure. We can get curious about what sits underneath it, which might include attachment, fear, unmet needs, comparison, boundaries, uncertainty, or something else entirely.
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Yes. Opening a relationship can involve excitement alongside uncertainty, grief, fear, and significant renegotiation. Therapy can provide space to slow the process down, clarify needs and agreements, strengthen communication, and make sure consent remains meaningful throughout the transition.
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A difference this significant deserves room for honesty rather than pressure toward a predetermined solution. Therapy can help clarify what each person wants, what the disagreement means to them, and what choices are genuinely available. The goal isn't to convince someone to become polyamorous or to convince someone to remain monogamous.
ENM & Polyamory FAQ
Therapy in Richmond, Virginia and Online
Ethical Non-monogamy and Polyamory therapy is available in person in Richmond, Virginia, and through telehealth for adults located throughout Virginia and New Jersey.
Sessions are by appointment.
If you're looking for a space where you can bring more of yourself into the room without first having to explain why your identity, brain, relationships, or way of moving through the world is valid, you're welcome to reach out.